“Why Pride is Still Important” Editor’s Pick for e[lust], plus other great reads

July 8, 2010

Photo courtesy of Elle from Kink Unleashed

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Editor’s Note: A little change in how things are done for this edition – you’ll notice there are no “Top 3” picks – due in part to the holiday I ended up being extremely short on judges and I didn’t have enough for fair voting. So instead, I expanded my “Featured Post”. (If you’d like to volunteer to be an occasional judge for e[lust], just email me, Lilly, at questions.e.lust @ gmail.com) Also, please be sure to check out the new summer schedule in effect until the 20th edition.

~ Featured Posts (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Why Pride is Still ImportantWhen someone tells me that they don’t think Pride is necessary, I can’t help but believe that they go through life with tunnel vision. I live in New York where for the most part I can walk around being a big ol’ queen and I’ll make it home alive, but there are people who live in places where they can’t. Even here in New York you’ll get called a faggot from time to time by passing cars or groups of punks, and even here in New York I hear stories of people getting the shit kicked out of them just because they were gay.

Fantasies and CondomsOur culture has created a narrative in which sex only feels good and looks sexy if no one is protected. We’re all suffering from this narrative, but sex workers are probably suffering the most.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Some days we need a little hopeI encourage you to practice random acts of kindness that could be worthy of inclusion on the site (GivesMeHope.com). Be nice, be caring, let your heart open up just for the sake of bringing someone some happiness or comfort. Do you know how good it feels to just give?

See also: Pleasurists #83 and #84 for all your sex toy review needs.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Kink & Fetish

An Anal Adventure
Bound in the Night
Being a Tart
Danger may explode without warning
Found It: Pearls for the Submissive Wife
Morning Rituals
Shoe Slut
(another!) Shoe Slut
Spanking my ass while fucking so he feels every wiggle
Submission is impossible in the absence of humanity
Strip, boy
Swallow Falls
The Trigger
The Beast with Three Backs

Erotic Writing

A long hot day
And then we kissed…
A Picture of Lust
Ass Plug
‘Come For Me…’
Exchange II
Forbidden Fantasy
Fucking Mika for the first time
Good Things Come To Those Who Wait
Getting Off…On The Road
Katie’s First Time
Master Class
My Favourite Waste of Time
Microfantasy Monday, week 84: Addiction
Picture to Word 2
Saturday Night Plans
Safe Sex
The Train
Thunderstorms are Sexy
Teaching Respect (Part 1)
You First

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Adventures in Birth Control
Erotic Awakening: A Swinger’s Comments
Friends With Benefits His Lush Behind!
Getting Started – Hotel Parties
Greetings From The Deep End – Swinging and Openness
How To Have Multiple Orgasms
Mr. Strong
Play Safe. Stay Safe. Get Tested. Be Protected.
Political Cuddling: Asking, Talking, Touching
Reflections on Glass
Something I Wish I’d Had 10 Years Ago
Sex: A required part of the college curriculum
Shades of Grey
Three’s Company
Ten Life Lessons I’m Learning from Enslavement
Walk of Shut The Fuck Up

Sex News, Interviews, Politics and Humor

Interview with Scarlett Chaos aka Essin’Em
The Media is Not Responsible for Your Poor Body Image
To Shave or Not to Shave

Lubes Found to Potentially Increase Chance of STI/HIV Transmission

May 28, 2010

“Hi, I’m like lubricating yourself with Windex!”

And you guys thought I was just trying to sell you the expensive stuff to make a buck. Well fuck a buck! Maybe this will finally convince you that those cheap lubes you keep cramming in your fanny suck. Now they are proven to possibly be toxic!

The 2010 International Microbicides Conference released two studies on May 25th regarding the safety of select lubricants when used for anal sex, and wouldn’t you know that some of them are bad for your bum.

The researchers found in one study that those who used some of the most popular lubricants on the market were three times more likely to have rectal sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Another study found that some of these lubricants were actually toxic to cells, causing cellular death within the anus, resulting in a vulnerable target for HIV transmission.

Before you all start clutching your pearls you should know which lubricants were tested and why they did the damage they did. Astroglide, KY Jelly, ID Glide, Elbow Grease, Wet Platinum, and Pre’ were the lubes tested. The studies showed that Wet Platinum and Pre’ were safest to use for anal due to the fact that they didn’t cause cell damage or damage to the rectal lining. This is most likely due to the fact that Wet Platinum is the only silicone-based lubricant among the bunch (i.e. it doesn’t contain toxic chemicals) and Pre’ is a non-toxic sperm friendly lubricant, typically used with Pre-Seed for couples attempting to make more brats to crowd the J train at 3:00.

However, the hyperosmolar nature of the other lubricants was associated with cellular toxicity. This literally means that the other lubricants were found to be dehydrating and thus killing the cells within your butt, resulting in an increased risk to HIV and STI transmission.

The likely culprit is glycerin, which is a pretty nasty chemical to be internalizing anally or vaginally.

To read the press release click here.

Click here for my favorite water-based glycerin free lubricant — Sliquid Organics Gel!  If you’re a silicone man, check out my favorite — System JO Anal Premium!

Play smart, gentlemen!

Healthy Open Relationships

January 30, 2010

An article was posted by the New York Times yesterday discussing open relationships.  The article revealed that a soon to be released study showed that 50% of gay couples polled were in happy open relationships.

The negative backlash to the topic of open relationships is something that practitioners and polygamists are familiar with.  It’s an argument that will often times draw anger from those that oppose open relationships, or at best elicit responses such as “I could never do it, but to each his own.”

The following is a brief example of why open relationships work for many, my responses to the various common arguments against responsible non-monogamy,  as well as a short beginners guide on how to develop an open relationship with your partner if that is the path that you choose.

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End of Year Top Toy Picks by Brandon B.

December 31, 2009

Well it’s that time of year again.  The last day of 2009.  People are joining gyms around the nation that they will visit maybe four times, nicotine patches will be ripped off of triceps and hurled into garbage bins, and somewhere someone is going to have a little too much sparkling wine and decide that they drink too much until they are invited out the next evening.

It’s been  a great year for The INQUEERY and I have all of you to thank.  There are some exciting things I have planned for next year to take my site to the next level and I hope you enjoy all of it.

Speaking of things to enjoy, I’ve had a lot of fun with a lot of toys this year.  I figured it only right to post my End of Year Top Toy Picks to celebrate my personal favorites in each category.  Enjoy, and have a safe and fun New Year!


Brandon B.

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MANHUNT Daily: Lazy Bottom Resolutions

December 28, 2009

Check out MANHUNT Daily for my tips on being a better bottom in 2010!

Tattoos = Boner Fuel

November 22, 2009

This has nothing to do with sex or sex toys except that it makes me want to have sex with myself.

Tattoo progress!  My artist is Su Houston and she is rad.  She is also the babe responsible for my peacock feathers and the gnome on my ankle.  This is just the outline so don’t tilt your head.  Just thought I’d share so you can see it become the awesome tat that it’s going to be.  Plus I told her I’d pimp her out.

Tattooed boys are hot!  Go get some tats so I can masturbate to you guys!

Underwear Matters to Kasey

September 10, 2009


I admit that it looks like I spend more time out of my underwear than in it.  That shouldn’t imply that I don’t think underwear is sexy.  In fact the first time I ever masturbated was to a certain actor (who I now find embarrassing so I will leave him nameless) in a certain movie where the sex scene began with him pushing up against his co-star in a pair of cute briefs.

Nice underwear to me is like wrapping your goods up as a present.  Like a Christmas present; underwear is the shiny bow-wrapped barrier between you and a butt taco.  When I was a kid my dad used to put my presents in brown paper bags and staple them shut.  Although the gift was nice, you can imagine how I was a little less excited than I should have been to be eyeing a Charlie Brown-esque Christmas tree lined with rows of what appeared to be sacks of dog shit.

The same can be said for underwear.  What kind of gift do you want to give?

I asked my friend Kasey to write up a little blurb on skivvies.  He is a bit of an underwear fanatic and has some great articles for you to invest in.  Bonus points if you buy any of these and send me pictures!

Just kidding just kidding!


Keep reading for a guide to some of the sexy underwear wares on the market today!

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