Q&A: “My boyfriend has a history of sexual abuse and now tells me he never wants to have sex…”

July 14, 2010

“My boyfriend has a history of sexual abuse and now tells me he never wants to have sex…”

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Q & A: My penis lacks sensitivity and it’s hard to climax…

March 12, 2010

Hey Brandon. I read your article on premature ejaculation and found it interesting. I’m having the opposite problem. It takes me quite some time to get to orgasm/ejac and it seems to get longer and longer. I’ve always had a problem with lack of sensitivity of my penis for as long as I can remember. I know I had really great orgasm at younger ages and all but with age it’s getting harder to get there at all. It’s seems to have gotten much worse in the past year. I got a P/A piercing many years ago and it helped for a while but then got to be the same. I tried abstinence (OMG) and it felt good for a few times and then back to the same.
SO currently I can jerk myself off and get off in about 5-10 min. I think because I squeeze harder when I do it. If I have sex with someone else it can be from 1-5 hours and sometimes I can’t even finish myself off. Yeah, most guys don’t ever complain about a guy that can fuck you for hours and not get soft, but they want the icing on the cake too. About half of the time they have multiple orgasms and I don’t get one. I can get off if I bottom but still takes a long time and I don’t like it too much. I’m really tight and almost always bleed and am really sore. And I’ve had partners where we aren’t using protection with the same results. I never get off if I wear a condom. I can’t think of any psychological reasons that would cause this, I don’t feel anything wrong down there, other than a horrible case of blue balls after sex! I usually get to just the edge of an orgasm and then gone or it stays just under the edge for quite a while. AAAAAGGGGGGHHH. Any ideas??

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Q & A: My boyfriend wont be monogamous…

October 27, 2009

Q & ADear Brandon,

I recently told my partner of several years that I wanted to be monogamous.  Until now we have had an understanding that we are allowed to play with other people, but we have been together for such a long time now and I don’t want to share him anymore.  He told me that he doesn’t want to be monogamous and that we should probably break up.  How can he turn his back on me after all this time?  Should I be as hurt as I am that he wants to fuck other guys besides me after all these years?

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Q & A: I’m uncut and it hurts to top…

June 28, 2009

Q & AB,

I am uncut and I love to bottom, but I have tried to top a few times in the past but it hurt like hell!  I read your piece about being versatile but I don’t get how I am able to top somebody if it’s going to just end up hurting me.  Is there anything I can do to numb the pain?  Or is there maybe something wrong with me?

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Q & A: “I’m A Grower Not A Shower…”

June 18, 2009

Q & A“Dear Brandon,
I have a pretty large penis, but I’ve noticed I’m a grower, not a shower. How you do feel about stretching tools? Should I just be happy that I’m big when I’m hard?”

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Q & A: It Hurts When I Bottom…

June 18, 2009

Q & ADear Brandon,
I always bottom. Sometimes it’s fine, and sometimes it hurts. Not the whole time, just when they first stick themselves in. The only way I can describe it is it feels like a sharp pain like something is tearing. But then gets easier after a minute or two. Is there anything I can do to make it hurt less? I’ve heard there are numbing lubes out there but I don’t know if they work.

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